Anal sex can feel very tabboo to those who grew up in conservative homes that did not speak much about sexual activities and pleasure. We are often told that anal s3x is only enjoyed by gay men, and that it is really bad for us, but this only further creates a stigma around anal s3x that is not true. In reality, many people of all sexuality, gender orientation, and ages, enjoy trying and having anal sex with their partners.
So what exactly is anal s3x?
Anal sex or anal play, is an activity that entails penetration of the anus, in which that penetration may be made by a strap on, dildo, penis, fingers, or other object. Other objects can be subjective, but should be only body safe materials, not random household objects.
You may be asking yourself, is anal s3x something I can safely take part in?
Well, with enough preparation and education, absolutely! Anyone can participate in anal sex if they so desire to. Even though the topic is still kind of taboo, anal sex is widely known about and has very high participation! Again, as long as you’re aware of the preparation that needs to go in to having safe anal sex, everything will be good to go!
A few important safety facts to keep in mind are the following:
Anal sex is linked to higher rates of HIV transmission than vaginal sex. Using protection is key to prevention.
Anal sex can lead to injuries, due to the lack of natural lubrication. Utilize a good lubricant when taking part in this activity!
Anal sex can cause orgasms for both men and women. Don’t be afraid to enjoy!
When it comes to anal sex, you have the ability to go the traditional penis in anus route, but you also have the option to to utilize a silicone dildo or glass dildo, vibrating beads, butt plugs, or fingers! Some even call oral anal sex “eating groceries” or “eating ass”, and many women and men alike enjoy this sexual experience.
Now, let’s talk in regards to that higher rate of STD transmission. There is definitely some truth to that. Why is this the case? Well, because your anus does not make natural lubrication, there is a much higher rate of skin tearing. Tears in your anus are more susceptible to blood borne illnesses and diseases. It is super important to remember to utilize lubricant, regardless of what is penetrating the anus. You can never have too much lube! However, it is not only health scares like STD or STI transmission, but it is also the risk of increased chances of anal cancer that you need to be aware of. It’s even more important and crucial to utilize condoms to avoid any transmission of disease. Even if you are in a committed relationship, and have been tested, erring on the side of caution for your safety is the best way to go. Also, please don’t use the same condom used during anal sex to have vaginal sex, as this could create an infection in your partners vagina.
Important tips for anal sex:
Whether this is your first time trying anal or something you do on the regular, it is important to follow some basic guidelines to have satisfying and successful anal sex. These tips can help you stay mentally and physiologically prepared!
Lubricant is a must have for any form of anal play, regardless of dildo, vibrator, penis, or fingers. A water based, hypoallergenic lubricant is imperative for this.
Anus’s can get yeast infections, just like vaginas do! Bacteria such as E.coli and hepatitis A can grow easily in the anus. Anal itching is something you should definitely get checked out – it is most likely a yeast infection, and can easily be treated by a round of antibiotics.
You may bleed when you have anal sex for the first time. It’s imperative to take it slow and be safe.
Have a pleasant discussion with your partner first about anal sex. It’s important to be open and comfortable to talk about your concerns and fears. It is so important to have a conversation that allows your vulnerabilities to be laid out, with your concerns. Talk about them, and if you are not open to having anal sex, then don’t! Neither of you should push each other into doing something you’re not comfortable doing.
If you and your partner have a healthy relationship, then this conversation could easily keep the two of you even happier, as you are able to communicate healthily and effectively in a way that makes you feel closer than ever. You can experiment and explore your sexual fantasies to make sure that both you and your partner are fully fulfilled and satisfied in your sex life together.